Welcome back to the Share Your Story series. Last week Huda from BeauLife shared with us what it was like for her living as an introvert. This week, we have the lovely Connie from Earth to Connie who has written about learning to compromise in a relationship, here she is now…
Earth to Connie
My name is Connie and I’m a lifestyle blogger at earthtoconnie.com. The world is wide and so I want to make some memories by leaving the U.K. and not looking back. To anyone who caught onto that Mamma Mia 2 reference there, you are my type of person, maybe we should grab some coffee? Anywho… I’m 20 years old and I’m currently stuck in the hell that is university just waiting to finish. You can probably tell that I’m not universities biggest fan. With this in mind from my blog you can read all about my travels and student life.
Learning to Compromise in a Relationship
Comprise? Why? I want it all my way!
If this is the case then perhaps a relationship is not for you. It is not fair to expect your significant other to bend over backwards for you and then not give anything in return. I have learnt this the hard way over the last year.
Me and my partner Neil have almost been dating a year now. In fact, we practically decided to live together after the third date. (Surprised? Check out my post all about this) Anyway, because our relationship was serious from the start, I had to quickly learn how to compromise in a relationship.
What I mean by this is you have to both agree on every decision you make – even small things like what you’re eating that night. This sounds easy, but believe me, it is not. I can’t tell you how many times me and Neil have argued over the silliest of things. I think the most stupid thing we’ve argued about is when we are going to watch the next episode of ‘suits’. “You said we were gonna watch it after dinner”. “I’m so busy I don’t give a f**k about Suits” – that kind of thing really.
Anyway, having a boyfriend/girlfriend is not the same as having a slave. It’s not the same as having a mind-reading following you around. So I thought I’d compile a list of tips to learning to make compromises with your partner.
Number one… Remind yourself why you fell in love with that person.
If you truly love someone you will do whatever you can to make them happy. Your significant other should act the same way and bobs your uncle, you are both bending over backwards for each other. Unfortunately, life is no fairy tale, and this never happens. You need to strike a balance. If you are always doing everything for him/her and it’s not reciprocated, then you need to get out of that relationship. Drink some tequila in a swanky bar and dance your troubles away.
Number two… Please talk to your partner all the time.
Are they supposed to know how you’re feeling? Perhaps, if they knew you were upset about (example) then they would not do (example) again. Think about if the roles were reversed. Would you want your partner to bottle their feelings up?
Number three… Do not compare your relationship to anyone else’s.
Just because Dave drives Sally everywhere, cooks and cleans for her, does not mean it is healthy, fair or normal. You just need to listen to what your gut is telling you. Are you happy? If so, then it’s worth fighting for, trust me. No relationship comes easy and people lie if they tell you that arguing in a relationship isn’t normal.
Anyway, I have now ran out of relationship advice. I hope this is somewhat helpful to at least one person. Please do bear in mind however I am still only 20 years old and still have a lot to learn myself. Just do what makes you happy and if there is a person out there that doesn’t, then cut them out – you don’t need that kind of negative energy in your life.
Thanks Connie for your tips. You’re right there is a lot of compromise in relationships, and sometimes that’s just not easy.
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