Reuben

Picking A School; Why I Feel so Nervous

10th January 2018

This is the year that Reuben will go to school. He is so excited. He has wanted to go to school since last September when all of his other friends went. I know he is more than ready for this next step in his life. I however, am not. How did my little boy get so big. Why is time going so quickly?

The school applications have to be in by 15 January. Whilst we have already made our choices I cannot help but feel worried. Have we picked the right choice? Will we get our first choice? Is he going to like the school we’ve picked? He is going to be there for such a long time and there are so many thoughts that are going through my mind. Waiting to April is going to seem like an age.

The nerves started early.

In fact, they started as soon as I received the letter saying we needed to pick a school. The nerves really kicked in when I was visiting potential schools. I sat in the halls watching videos, waiting for the presentations and I started reminiscing about when he was born, how much he has learned and grown over the years. I came over quite emotional. Not quite blubbering all over the place, but that hot lump you get in the back of your throat just before the tears start. I was quite impressed I managed to keep it together.

But how do you pick?

The trouble that we have is that for me to be able to continue to work we need Reuben to go to school in one that is definitely not in our catchment area. I don’t work close enough to our catchment to make it work and all of my support network is near where I work. Whilst the plan is to move closer to my work, thus closer to the school, we are not there yet. So there’s that worry.

The next worry is that I have completely fallen in love with a school. It’s the school that we have picked for our first choice. It would be perfect for Reuben and I can see him there, and I can see him enjoying it. See him happy. There is a lot of outside focus, and that is just what he needs. He learns best when he is outside in big open spaces. Not only is it perfect for him but it would be the best fit for us as a family. I have so many support options for this particular school that everything would be, well perfect.

It is out of my hands.

That is hard for me. I hate having to wait for other people to make decisions that will play such an important part of our lives, of Reuben’s life. I’m sure it’s hard for every single parent, waiting. However, it is the only thing we can do now, wait. Wait until 18 April when we get our offer letters. When we finally get to see the decisions that have been made and make plans for the next stage in our little ones lives.

Does your little one go to school this year, or have you recently gone through all of this? Is there a way to feel less nervous? I would love to know your thoughts or experiences below.

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  • Jaki Jelley

    Oh lovely. I get you. Really, I do. This time last year I was a bit of a wreck. I’m sure you remember reading all about it. I can’t believe where the time has gone but fast forward a year and Little Man is well into his second full term at school and he is loving it. It’s so hard watching them grow up so fast and school seems to make it speed up even more, but the things they learn and how they amaze you make it all worth it. With regards to choosing a school I just had to keep everything crossed. I would have been gutted had he not got our first choice as it’s our local school including the one that I went to, my Sister and both of my parents! I am forever grateful he got in there. Chin up lovely. I get how hard it is but I promise it does get easier. Hugs. xxx (Thanks for sharing with #TriumphantTales).

    • I do remember and I remember thinking that will be me next year! I cannot believe it was a year ago already! Oh wow, you’ve all gone to the same school that’s impressive. We are looking to move this year which will be in the catchment area and we did note that on the application so now we cross our fingers – April seems so far off, not that I want to wish the time away!

  • Rich Sayers

    We are also a bit nervous about the fact we have moved house and we want our daughter to go to the same school as our son. We should be ok but there is a school closer, this has a bad reputation which is another reason why we dont want her to go there. #triumphanttales

    • I just assumed that subsequent children get the same school as the sibling, otherwise how would that work? That must be nerve wracking!!

  • We really only wanted one school so the choice was easy and then we were both so ready for him to start! It was so nerve racking though sending them in with their little bag. Thanks for linking up to #pbe

    • That must have made the first bit somewhat easier! I hadn’t even thought that far ahead, I’m going to be a nervous wreck!

  • Rhiannan Morgan

    It is SO hard to make these decisions, isn’t it? And even harder to have to wait for a decision.

    #PBE

  • Nige

    We didn’t have to choose it was one option end of but I’m glad we didn’t have to good luck hope all works out well Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

    • Whilst the choosing has been difficult, I am glad that we have been able to as if he has to go to the catchment area school I may be in a position where I have to give up work. That would not work at all!

  • The_tale_of_mummyhood

    We spent some time late last year, looking around schools and the reality of it all really bothers me! It’s all just come around far too quickly! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

    • I know, I thought I would be ready when it id come round, especially after feeling so sad he didn’t go with all his friends last year – I was very wrong!

  • Honestly I’m so glad we don’t have to choose schools in the same way up in Scotland – what a stressful time! 🙁
    It’s *so* hard sending them in for the first time isn’t it? But before long it will become your norm, and the wee man will absolutely love it, I’m sure. 🙂

    #PBE linky

    • I just hope we get the first choice! Fingers crossed. I’m sure he will be fine, he is looking forward to going to school, I think we worry more than what they do….